How To Start A Conversation And Stay Out Of The Awkward Silence Zone
Being able to start a conversation is a very important skill to have but for many of us it can be a very intimidating task.
Being able to start a conversation can lead to many opportunities in life like: Forming friendships Finding the love of your life Making a good business contact Discovering something new and interesting Meeting new people The possibilities are endless.
So if you don't know how to start a conversation, you could be missing out on a lot of great opportunities in life.
How To Start A Conversation The hardest part of starting a conversation is having the confidence and courage to initiate the first exchange of words.
It is this initial task of starting a conversation that can seem very daunting and scary for some people, but you will find that if you can start the conversation off on a positive note then the rest of the conversation will seem a lot easier.
THE APPROACH The first thing you need to teach yourself when learning how to start a conversation is to learn how to be confident in your approach.
You want to appear confident so you don't come across as being awkward but you don't want to appear over confident and seem somewhat arrogant.
If you appear over confident and arrogant in your approach you will be intimidating to the other person and they will feel uncomfortable from the very start of the conversation.
Remember you want to start a conversation on a positive note and make the other person feel comfortable about talking to you.
You also want to approach a conversation with a smile and a happy demeanor because you want to come across as an inviting person and someone who is easy to be around.
HOW TO INITIATE THE CONVERSATION After you have made your approach you want to initiate the conversation by making an obvious gesture that will grab the other persons attention.
This is usually done by making eye contact and saying a simple "Hello, how are you?" or maybe a "Hi, my name is...
What's your name?" or you can take a more indirect approach and ask something like "Nice weather today, don't you think?".
The main key when you want to start a conversation is to say something that requires a response.
You want to start off with a simple question that the other person feels comfortable replying to and doesn't have to think too much about their answer.
When you ask someone "Hello, how are you?" it is almost second nature for anyone to reply with something like "I'm fine thanks, how are you?".
HOW TO KEEP THE CONVERSATION FLOWING After making the hardest step of initiating the conversation it is important to keep the conversation flowing so you avoid the dreaded 'awkward silence' that can really kill a conversation.
A good way to avoid the 'awkward silence' zone is to have a few, well thought out questions or statements that you think would generate a good response from the other person.
Have these pre-thought questions or statements tucked up your sleeve so you can pull them out whenever you feel the conversation is starting to go into that awkward zone.
Now you don't want to go into a conversation with a whole bunch of questions and make the other person feel as if they are being interrogated and you definitely don't want to start rattling off a whole bunch of predetermined statements that are way off topic and don't have anything to do with the conversation you are having.
But it is a good idea to have some sort of backup strategy in place just to keep the ball rolling so you don't let the conversation go quiet and fall into the dreaded 'awkward silence zone'.
You also want to keep the other person engaged in the conversation by maintaining eye contact at all times.
This lets the other person know that you are paying attention and you are interested in what they have to say.
You want the conversation to flow naturally so try not to go into a conversation with too much preconception of how the rest of the conversation will go after you make the first move.
Just be relaxed and try to come across as confident when you speak, have your backup strategy ready to go and maintain eye contact with your fellow conversationalist.
If you do these things you will begin to enjoy starting up a conversation in the future instead of being intimidated by the whole process.
Another important point to remember is don't become discouraged by a failed attempt.
If you try and start a conversation with someone and they are not all that interested in having a conversation with you, don't take it so personally and don't let it stop you from trying again with someone else.
There is something like 7 billion people in the world so don't worry too much.
You will always find someone who is interested and intrigued by what you have to say.
And remember the more you practice your conversation techniques, the more confident you will become and the easier it will get.