Control Stress by Creating Good Habits
Instead, take a moment to write down all the things you do right and pay attention to all the good habits that you have.
Start reinforcing the behavior that is getting good results, and you will reduce your stress load in the process.
A side effect of noting the positive things about yourself is that when you feel better about yourself, you tend to shrug off stressful events more easily and take life's challenges in stride.
An important step in the right direction of reducing your stress load is to know yourself.
Be aware of the areas in life where you tend to keep making the same mistakes over and over again, whether in choices you make at work or in the type of relationships that you get involved in.
Only by becoming aware of the mistakes can you start doing things differently, and shift those choices toward healthier ones.
If you have gotten in the habit of beating yourself up for your mistakes, realize that it's hard to learn from what went wrong if you are stuck in feeling guilty and ashamed.
Let go of the past, and focus instead on how you can learn from past mistakes or bad habits, and turn things around so that you create good habits instead.
Too often, people get caught up in paying attention to what others are doing, or even making a long list of all the things their spouse or partner is doing wrong.
It's easy to get the notion that if only they'd stop doing all that, then your stress will go away.
However, when you put a lot of energy into trying to control someone else's behavior, then what happens is that you neglect your own emotional growth and also you set yourself up to resent that other person when they don't do as you wish.
The resulting power struggle destroys relationships, and increases everyone's stress level rather than reducing it.
Some of the good habits that you might want to invest time in are: •Clear away the clutter in your work space and home.
It will make your job and housekeeping easier when you can keep things neat and find what you are looking for without having to go through huge piles of clutter.
•Limit the amount of time you spend on email and social media so that you don't get caught in the trap of lowering your productivity and being more stressed about your workload •Instead of working for a few minutes on one project then quickly doing a little work on another one too, focus on one at a time, get it done and then move on to the next project.
Train yourself to work quickly with as few distractions as possible so that you are more efficient.
•Minimize the "fluff" work that you do - prioritize your work so that you put the bulk of your energy into the most important tasks and ignore the minor things.
By creating good habits in your daily life, you will manage your time more efficiently and as a result you will reduce your stress so that it does not sap your energy and joy.